The song was directed at his parents - regarding his wife. By the time the song went to #1, they had broken up,...
If you could only see the way she loves me
Then maybe you would understand
Why I feel this way about our love
And what I must do
If you could only see how blue her eyes can be when she says

When she says she loves me
Well you got your reasons
And you got your lies
And you got your manipulations
They cut me down to size
Sayin' you love but you don't
You give your love but you won't
If you could only see the way she loves me

Then maybe you would understand
Why I feel this way about our love
And what I must do
If you could only see how blue her eyes can be when she says

When she says she loves me
Seems the road less traveled
Show's happiness unraveled
And you got to take a little dirt

To keep what you love
That's what you gotta do
Sayin' you love but you don't
You give your love but you won't
You're stretching out your arms to something that's just not there

Sayin' you love where you stand
Give your heart when you can
If you could only see the way she loves me
Then maybe you would understand
Why I feel this way about our love
And what I must do
If you could only see how blue her eyes can be when she says
When she says she loves me

Sayin' you love but you don't
You give your love but you won't
Sayin' you love where you stand
Give your heart when you can

If you could only see the way she loves me
Then maybe you would understand
Why I feel this way about or love
And what I must do
If you could only see how blue her eyes can be when she says
When she says she loves me


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"If You Could Only See" as written by Emerson Hart

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  • +4
    General Commenthe wrote this song to his mother about a girl who he was in love with and planned to marry but she didn't approve, hence "if you could only see the way she loves me maybe you would understand"
    skibum8713on June 13, 2002   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI have no idea what was his real intention when he wrote this song, but the scenario that always pops into MY mind when I hear it is this: A guy who already has a girlfriend whom he loves very much is explaining to another girl (who's trying to break them up so she can take a crack at him herself) why he would never break up with the girl he loves. It's like, yeah, you say you love me, but you don't. You don't love me like she does.
    Well, that's just how I see it...could be very wrong but whatever...
    Charisseon July 23, 2002   Link
  • +2
    General CommentTo me, this song is about real love.. and how people mock you for it.

    In the first verse, he's talking to most possibly, other guys, who fake relationships just to screw a girl. Saying that their manipulations cut real people like him who are honest and the male kind down to size.

    The pre-chorus to me, sounds like how these men lie during relationships. How they're all, "oooh I love you!" but they really don't.

    The chorus sounds like he's saying, "Well, if you could only see the way she loves me, then maybe you'de understand why I feel this way about our love, and what I must do." As if he's sacrificing himself to her. Because that's what love is all about, and he's trying to explain to other guys.

    The second chorus, obviously, sounds like he's saying, "The road less traveled" .i.e. - true love and not faking relationships - shows happiness. And the dirt is about how you are insulted, but if you love somebody, you should never break up with them to gain acceptance.

    I basically have always thought this song was about how people make fun of other people just because they're in love, but that's just me.
    Kippixinon March 26, 2003   Link
  • +2
    General CommentAs has been stated before, Emerson Hart has stated several times in concert what this song is about. I was actually at a concert at Rhythm and Brews in Chattanooga, TN when he started the song incorrectly by starting with the second verse. He stopped, apologized, and said he had never messed up the song before, but he started thinking about his mom as he began singing and that is why he got the verse wrong. He then went on to explain that he wrote this song when his mother did not approve of his pending marriage to his first wife. His mother thought that this girl was bad for him (turns out she was right) and he was trying to explain to his mom how he felt about her.
    Fasemanon June 14, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General CommentThe words of this song are expressing the reasons for leaving a wife. He is telling his wife that her love is toxic to him and the way she treated him was demoralizing. He expresses how she made him feel compared to how this other woman makes him feel. He compares the two loves. The dirt reference is to express the grief and the suffering that he knows will go with his choice to leave. He then expresses that if he wants to be happy than this less traveled road is the one that he must take. She in turn now has her arms reaching out to him but, he no longer wants her.

    The chorus is his constant expression (or self reassurance) of wanting her to understand why he's leaving. He is telling her that the love of this other woman justifies his decision to leave and all of the fallout suffering that will follow his decision.

    Personal note: Too bad the grass is never greener on the other side... At least not for that long. Fix something that is broken, instead of trading it in for a new model... They all have their own set of problems and in the long run you will be happier. Trust me, I know --- thedivorceattorneyswife.com/
    moments2con November 08, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI agree that, logically, it sounds like he is telling his girlfriend "If you could only see..." about another girl who does give him her love.
    What is cool about songs however, just like poetry, is that the meaning is subjective or circumstantial. It can have a different meaning for each person. For example. With the situation between my wife and I my heart sparked another interpretation that fit how I feel.
    The parts like "If you could only see the way she loves me." is what I tell family and friends when asked how I put up with her abusiveness. The other parts is what I'm telling her when the love shuts down and the lies and manipulations start. Since we can be complex we can have conflicting thoughts about someone or have them made about us.
    That said I must not forget to say this is one of my alltime favorite songs. It's in my head all the time especially since my interpretation of it comes from an ongoing part of my life.
    No matter how it is perceived these guys have come up with an inspired heartfelt song that should be framed and put in the hall of fame.
    tjustlefton April 24, 2007   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationI just heard it for the first time in a while and my first interpretation was that this guy is cheating on his girlfriend with another girl, who wants him to break up with his girlfriend. He's telling her how hard it is for him to break it up because he knows how much she loves him and he doesn't want to hurt her.
    Amatatombaon December 09, 2009   Link
  • +1
    Song MeaningEmerson Hart stated in an Australian show (live At The Chapel) the meaning of this song, he was in a relationship with an older woman, his family didnt approve and The Song was directed at his family.
    sidafecton December 19, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General Commenti connect to this song in more ways than one. My ex and i have had a rough patch for over a year and tried to make everything work, we both admit we love each other, but she has hurt me many times unintentionally and thus everyone around me hates her or dislikes her.

    this song is exactly how i feel, the lyric "Seems the road less traveled Show's happiness unraveled And you got to take a little dirt" is saying, even if your friends and family hate them, if you truly love the person, then you have to take their opinions and go against them to be happy, thus taking a little dirt.

    love isnt an easy thing, especially when its had its turbulence
    sdarmston May 19, 2011   Link
  • +1
    Song MeaningThis song is about a 15 year old girl who was in love with an older man (a lot older 30+). Obviously it's told from the POV of the man. The manipulators are her parents, her father is a well respected judge. The lyric "you gotta take a little dirt to get why you love" is referring to dealing with her parents and the law, etc.
    If you watch the video it becomes clearer. It's a hidden love affair that comes to the notice of her parents, she sits with them in the police station as the band plays from the interrogation room. This was also stated by mollarwow21. It's interesting how everyone is set on the "two loves" or leaving his love meaning, when it's so clear from the video.
    naps101on December 27, 2012   Link

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