"Promises" as written by and Vernon White....
I don't care if you never come home
I don't mind if you just keep on rowin' away on a distant sea
'Cause I don't love you and you don't love me

You cause a commotion when you come to town
You give 'em a smile and they melt
And your lovers and friends is all good and fine
But I don't like yours and you don't like mine

La la la la la la
La la la la la la la la

I don't care what you do at night
Oh, I don't care how you get you delites
We'll leave it alone and just let it be
I don't love you and you don't love me

I got a problem, can you relate
I got a woman callin' love hate
We made a vow we'd always be friends
How could we know that promises end

La la la la la la
La la la la la la la la

I tried to love for years upon years
You refuse to take me for real
It's time you saw what I want you to see
I'd still love you if you'd just love me

I got a problem, can you relate
I got a woman callin' love hate
We made a vow we'd always be friends
How could we know that promises end

La la la la la la
La la la la la la la la
La la la la la la
La la la la la la la la
Wohoo, la la la la la la la


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"Promises" as written by Brandon D Casey Brandon Casey

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  • +3
    General CommentThere seems to be little mystery here...

    This is a man coming to a long-overdue conclusion that a woman he's always wanted to be with will never accept his love. He has become indifferent to what she does only to protect himself, and in the end, he is ending the relationship for his own good. Until there comes a day when she can see it the way he has always done so, he is giving up in order to move on.
    swissm1sson November 22, 2010   Link
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    General CommentTHIS SONG IS ABOUT THE FRAGILE MALE EGO. Nothing more. This song describes my marriage. It kind-of scares me that I relate to it all. Some may think it’s about an evil woman. It's not. It's about a man feeling inadequate.

    I don't care if you never come home
    I don't mind if you just keep on rowin' away on a distant sea
    Cus I don't love you and you don't love me

    (My wife's modeling career began to take off when I started pulling away. We both grew up in a country town and when she started traveling for work, I became very angry that her new world was stealing her from me. I was so hurt that I lied to myself that I didn't love her because I thought that I couldn't compete with the world's fashion scene. When she traveled to Europe and the more she was away, the more I thought she didn't love me. I told my friends that I hoped she would permanently stay away to ease the pain.)

    You cause a commotion when you come to town
    You give 'em a smile and they melt
    And your lovers and friends is all good and fine
    But I don't like yours and you don't like mine

    (I accompanied her to Milan once and went to some very large parties with her. The people at these parties would go wild when we arrived. Everyone knew her. Everyone would do anything for her. I felt I could do nothing special for her. She was theirs. They were hers. I did not fit in. These people would never mingle with "my world" and my friends/world would never think of fitting into theirs.)

    I don't care what you do at night
    Oh, I don't care how you get you delites
    We'll leave it alone and just let it be
    I don't love you and you don't love me

    (She tried her best to communicate. She called me every day (sometimes 3x a day.) She would tell me about her plans for the evening and how she was meeting some prince or designer. My ego could not be happy for her. All my ears heard were "I am going out with a prince." My ego was so hurt, my heart wall went up. I became more and more distant in my mind in preparation for what I feared was an eventuality.)

    I got a problem can you relate
    I got a woman callin' love hate
    We made a vow we'd always be friends
    How could we know that promises end

    (I pulled away as a pre-emptive move to protect my heart. I told her that I had been going out and found someone else. - I hadn't - She was devastated. I stopped taking her calls. She flew home to see me and she found me at our local bar. I knew she was home and purposefully surrounded myself with local girls. She reminded me that at our wedding I told the world that we were best friends and I would protect her forever. I lied to her and told her that she had changed and that I didn't love her anymore. We separated for a year. We married because we were best friends. We prided ourselves on our ability to communicate. When I tried to talk to her, she would just scream at me and tell me that she hated me.)

    I tried to love for years upon years
    You refuse to take me for real
    It's time you saw what I want you to see
    I'd still love you if you'd just love me

    (My ego felt that she was the one that betrayed me by throwing me away in exchange for the fashion world. I felt that I was the aggrieved party. She chose her career over our love and home life. I truly thought that she didn't love me and that she loved her new world. The last words of the song hit home because they are close to the exact words I said to my best friend. "I'd still love her if I thought she still loved me." He punched me in the head and asked me to listen to myself. I never stopped loving her. She never stopped loving me. My best friend made me realize that I was the ass. I threw myself at her feet and explained all of my feelings and thoughts and confessed to the lies. We are still married and I know she loves me and I still love her.)


    That was a long explanation, but this song hits home in so many ways!
    Jeepdude6on April 14, 2012   Link
  • +1
    My Interpretation- I think this song is about a man who is trying to be strong and pretend that he doesn't care about the woman he loves so much.

    I don't care if you never come home,
    I don't mind if you just keep on
    Rowing away on a distant sea,
    Cause I don't love you and you don't love me.

    - She goes out with other "lovers" and he continues to pretend he isn't hurting from everything she is doing to him, so he leaves her alone.

    I don't care what you do at night,
    Oh, and I don't care how you get your delights.
    I'm gonna leave you alone, I'll just let it be,
    I don't love you and you don't love me.

    -He never imagined that this would happen to them since they had made promises to be there for each other forever.

    I got a problem. Can you relate?
    I got a woman calling love hate.
    We made a vow we'd always be friends.
    How could we know that promises end?

    - He is trying to do all of this for her because it is how she wanted it and he was just trying it for her sake to see if she might come back to him if he pretends he doesn't need her. In reality he always needed her. He was always ready and willing... waiting for her for years. In the end he is finally breaking down and confessing how much he loves her and would take her back if she would just love him.

    I tried to love you for years upon years,
    You refuse to take me for real.
    It's time you saw what I want you to see,
    And I'd still love you if you'd just love me.
    forueinahpetson February 14, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI'm going to start this off by saying that this song is awesome. Although it was not written by Clapton. it is about a man who still has feelings for a woman after they broke up
    hamstersgonewildon October 23, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General Commentor maybe its about someone who's been in a relationship with someone and he realizes that she doesn't love him anymore, but he still loves her.
    oreobutonon February 22, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is the song that reminds me of my divorce. I wanted to end it so bad. I was just tired of her and her ways. She would come and go, and just expect me to be there waiting, like it was no big deal. I was filled with anger, hurt feelings. And when we finally split. I wanted her back so bad, that I was willing to take her back regardless of her infidelities and problems.
    Joshiezon March 16, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song in many ways is a Testament to the 60's and 70's excesses and their tolls on relationships. Their relationship in the song was torn apart by their desires.
    sanguinalison October 04, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General Commenti don't know what exactly this song is about , but i do know that its fucking good.
    allyoulleverbeon February 23, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThe first time I heard this song was on a radio station, and it just sucked me right in. I didn't recognize Eric Clapton's voice and was lucky enough to find the name of the song and artist by looking on the radio's online website. It has a powerful message and has a unique beat to it. The la la la... part is cool, too. It's definitely about a rocky relationship, with 2 people who each have their own habits that are tearing the relationship apart ("I got a problem, can you relate?").
    smtownon September 28, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song, for me, is about the good and bad aspects of an emotion called passion.

    It is the emotion that brings two people together in what is often the most unlikely of circumstances.

    And it is the same emotion that can drive one, or both, people in a relationship to be destructive, opposition and spiteful.

    It is an emotion that distinguishes us as humans and as individuals. And it is an emotion that can enrich, or ruin, not only our lives but the lives of those closest to us.

    Stephen Potter
    New Zealand

    stephenpotteron March 06, 2011   Link

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