"It's Different For Girls" as written by and Joe Jackson....
What the hell is wrong with you tonight?
I can't seem to say or do the right thing
Wanted to be sure you're feeling right
Wanted to be sure we want the same thing

She said, I can't believe it
You can't, possibly mean it
Don't we, all want the same thing
Don't we
Well, who said anything about love?

No, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
(Don't give me love)
No, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
You're all the same

Mama always told me save yourself
Take a little time and find the right girl
Then again don't end up on the shelf
Logical advice gets you in a whirl

I know, a lot of things that you don't
You want to hear some?
She said, just give me something
Anything
Well give me all you got but not love

No, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
(Don't give me love)
No, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same

Who said anything about love?

No, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
(Don't give me love)
No, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
(Don't give me love)
No, no, no, no, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
(Don't give me love)
No, no, no, no, no, not love she said
Don't you know that it's different for girls?
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same
You're all the same


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"It's Different For Girls" as written by David Ian Jackson

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    General CommentYeah, I always took it as a bit of cleverness--reversing the stereotype--a scenario where the girl wants to get laid but nothing more than that, while the guy remembers how Mom always said to save himself for marriage. As if only partly overheard, which is an interesting storytelling technique. (It also throws in a bit of ambiguity, and I'm never certain whether I'm interpreting the song as Joe Jackson intended when he wrote it.)

    Adding to the irony: if you see the cover of the 7-inch single, there's a photo of Joe, sitting at his piano (writing a song presumably)...but all of this comes through only if you look carefully. Give it a quick glance & you'd think the person in the shot is a teenage girl, not a grown man. Maybe just a weird pic; the shutter falls at a precise instant, and once in awhile you get a shot where the subject looks like somebody else. The style of the sleeve is very similar to the cover of the Look Sharp! LP (I'm guessing "It's Different For Girls" was written after that one but before I'm The Man).
    foreverdroneon June 06, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General CommentWhat a great song. I think it's reversing the normal roles in sex - in this song the bloke is the one that wants to take it slow and get to know each other and the girl just wants to do it. I'm not sure who is saying the line 'Don't you know that it's different for girls?' though. It could be the bloke, being shocked that this girl sees things that way, and telling her what his mum told him, which is that it's different for girls.
    Tikkaon June 04, 2004   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI've always heard it as the "Let's just be friends" syndrome. He basically wants to be with here romantically and she only wants him as a platonic friend. Kind of sad and bittersweet. One of my fave songs of all time.
    hnybnyon March 05, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General CommentIt's definitely the girl saying to the guy 'its different for girls'. I think its about a girl who just wants sex, and a guy who wants more. lol. talk about role reversal. You;ve gotta love Joe, though
    rikkuon January 02, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI recently discovered this song and its so beautiful, yet kind of sad. I think it's about a girl who only want's sex and to have a good time. I think she's tried love and got hurt and she no longer wants anything to do with it. However, the guy in the song is actually a caring individual who does want love, not just sex. She finally met the right guy, but she can't see it and she's been burned too many times, hence the line "you're all the same". The irony though is that not all men or women are the same and this guy is not like the others.
    harlanlovestoneon December 16, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Commentthe meaning is revealed here:

    "I know a lot of things that you don't
    You wanna hear some?
    She said, just give me something
    Anything
    Well, give me all you got, but not love"

    he cares about her and want to be in a loving relationship. she, in contrast, wants him to give her something - anything. that's not about sex, it's about gifts and/or money and/or vacations and/or higher social status... these are the things that make it different for girls in what they find attractive in a man (things he can give to her). he doesn't want these types things from her, he just wants to love her and be loved for who he is, not for the things he can physically give her.

    jackson probably wrote the song after much frustration in similar situations, discovering that 'you're all the same.', meaning: all women are like that (with few exceptions).






    penttaon April 28, 2011   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is a great great track! I'd really love to know why it's different for girls though? I'm a girl, and I don't know! Someone fill me in!!
    butterflykiss84on April 12, 2004   Link
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    General Commenti think he's questioning the boy-girl or man-woman divide. 'you're all the same.' well, obviously women are not all the same, and neither are men. i think he reverses the gender orthodoxy in order to illustrate this point. but then again...i could be wrong.
    song is great though!
    innion April 15, 2005   Link
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    General CommentOh my... first time I've heard it - I think - and now I can't imagine a life without it!!! I've fallen in love with this song & can't stop listening to it. Anything else written here is an understatement, so I'll just leave it at that, then. Perfect..
    voltaboltaon July 12, 2006   Link
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    General CommentThe idea is that people are always saying that it's different for girls (we care about love not just sex, want it to be special, etc.) But in reality it is not different for girls. Guys care about love and relationships too.
    copperboomon May 31, 2007   Link

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