"To Find A Friend" as written by and Tom Petty....
In the middle of his life
He left his wife
And ran off to be bad
Boy, it was sad
But he bought a new car
Found a new bar
And went under another name
Created a whole new game

And the days went by like paper in the wind
Everything changed, then changed again
It's hard to find a friend
It's hard to find a friend

Meanwhile then
His wife's boyfriend moved in and
Took over the house
Everybody was quiet as a mouse
And it changed their lives
Changed their plans
Slowly they grew apart
Boy, it woulda broke your heart

And the days went by like paper in the wind
Everything changed, then changed again
It's hard to find a friend
It's hard to find a friend


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"To Find a Friend" as written by Tom Petty

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    General CommentObviously about a divorce and how it affects the family / children.
    GoodOmenson January 12, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI don't think it's so much about the divorce, I think it's just kinda about this wife who can't find anyone. Her husband runs off to make a whole new life, then her new boyfriend ultimately doesn't fit the part. The days are passing by and she can't seem to find a friend.
    cogginjson November 16, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI really like the chorus. I'd like to think theres a deeper meaning but I think what you said is pretty much it.
    benulitronon January 15, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentYa, I dont think that there is a whole lot hidden in this song. Essentially, what you hear is what you get. Fairly self explanitory
    J.Spicolion August 13, 2007   Link
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    General CommentLike everyone else said, self explanatory song. First Tom Petty song I ever loved.
    Amindwithahearton January 17, 2011   Link
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    My InterpretationTo me, it is about the aftermath of a failed marriage from the perspective of the husband, then the perspective of the wife. The guy hit a midlife crisis and decided to find his own happiness, but could never find a friend to replace his wife. His wife tried to move on, but also couldn't find a friend to replace her husband.

    It's hard to find a friend, so think long & hard before letting one go.
    RTFireflyon October 03, 2017   Link

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